We are all going to experience grief at some point in our lives. We feel grief from death of a loved one, divorce, the breakup of a romantic relationship, losing out on a job, having a child born with a disability, financial changes, and even a general feeling of not being happy.
I host a radio show called “The Grief Recovery Hour with Sharon Brubaker,” on KHTS and on a recent show we discussed how our society never allows people to feel or deal with their grief.
Grief is not always about death, grief is just loss of any kind. We expect to not feel ok when a death happens, but we don’t give ourselves grace when we feel grief from other life events.
The first step to healing is admitting you are hurting. Grief is not an ugly or bad word. It is a real word that needs to be faced and overcome.
Why are we never taught how to grieve properly?
We live in a society that tells us to push down any kind of negative feelings and to be positive. It is definitely not that easy, and just pretending like you don’t feel that way does not work.
When we allow ourselves to acknowledge the grief, and feel it deeply, we can recover from it fully. You do not have to carry around your grief forever, there is help out there for you. I watch my clients heal and it is incredible.
I guide people through a crazy or down time in their life, and I am truly honored to walk through the journey of grief recovery with my clients. At A time to grief, I work with clients to help them understand that unresolved grief is almost always associated with wishing things were better, different or more and that it can have to do with any unfulfilled hopes, dreams and expectations.
I am not only a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist—I am a griever. I teach in my program that grief is a normal and natural reaction to a loss of any kind. Yet, we were never taught how to grieve. Sadly, most of the information we are given immediately following a loss from family or friends is incorrect. It does little or nothing to help us feel better or to begin the healing process. So, we continue to search and search.
Reach out to me today for help, and we can walk through this together.
About Sharon Brubaker
Grief is individual and unique for every person. A person’s relationship to each aspect of their life is also unique. As such, the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or other reasons requires customized attention using proven skills and understanding.