October first marks a year since the Route 91 shooting in Las Vegas where 58 people died. Thousands of Santa Clarita Valley residents attended the event and continue to be affected by the trauma of that day.
I host a radio show called “The Grief Recovery Hour with Sharon Brubaker,” on KHTS and I was recently joined in studio by Santa Clarita Valley Life Coach Alex Urbina to talk about the Route 66 shooting.
We talked to Ray Avalos, a Santa Clarita Valley resident who was an attendee at the event. He tells his story live on-air about how he, his wife, and four other friends all ran for their lives and hid from the shooter.
A lot of times what survivors need most is to talk. Let them tell their story. Sit quietly and let them release whatever they are holding onto by sharing their experience.
Alex asked Ray what his “take-away” was from this last year of living life after something so traumatic.
“I would say we can overcome adversity,” said Ray, “ knowing that we got out, survived and moved forward with life. We overcame all of that adversity.”
I guide people through a crazy or down time in their life, and I am truly honored to walk through the journey of grief recovery with my clients. At A time to grief, I work with clients to help them understand that unresolved grief is almost always associated with wishing things were better, different or more and that it can have to do with any unfulfilled hopes, dreams and expectations.
I am not only a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist—I am a griever. I teach in my program that grief is a normal and natural reaction to a loss of any kind. Yet, we were never taught how to grieve. Sadly, most of the information we are given immediately following a loss from family or friends is incorrect. It does little or nothing to help us feel better or to begin the healing process. So, we continue to search and search.
Reach out to me today for help, and we can walk through this together.
About Sharon Brubaker
Grief is individual and unique for every person. A person’s relationship to each aspect of their life is also unique. As such, the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or other reasons requires customized attention using proven skills and understanding.