I host a radio show called “The Grief Recovery Hour with Sharon Brubaker,” on KHTS FM 98.1 & AM 1220 and I recently welcomed a guest and former client David Keesee.
We talked about a series of topics including transformational coaching, motivation, and his business strategies.
David is a speaker, trainer and coach himself, but he says being a coach also made him very coach-able.
“As coaches, we are students first,” David said.
I helped David move beyond the grief of a deeply broken heart with my grief recovery process, and he said he is forever grateful, saying he really needed to face that grief and move past it.
It’s a common misconception that you can just wait and the grief will go away. People say, “just give it time,” and “you’ll be better with time.”
Grief is a beach ball that you push under the water and hope it goes away, but that ball is coming back up.
“If I hadn’t faced it and really worked through it, I would have never fully recovered,” said David. “When you have an emotional investment and have a deep commitment to someone and then you break up, that is definitely grief. It felt like I was breaking up with my goals, my dreams, my future.”
David was a great student though. He showed up 100%, he was on time, committed and he kept going even on the bad days, which is so important in the process.
“At some point there has to be some point of surrender to the process,” David said.
I guide people through a crazy or down time in their life, and I am truly honored to walk through the journey of grief recovery with my clients. At A time to grief, I work with clients to help them understand that unresolved grief is almost always associated with wishing things were better, different or more and that it can have to do with any unfulfilled hopes, dreams and expectations.
I am not only a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist—I am a griever. I teach in my program that grief is a normal and natural reaction to a loss of any kind. Yet, we were never taught how to grieve. Sadly, most of the information we are given immediately following a loss from family or friends is incorrect. It does little or nothing to help us feel better or to begin the healing process. So, we continue to search and search.
About Sharon Brubaker
Grief is individual and unique for every person. A person’s relationship to each aspect of their life is also unique. As such, the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or other reasons requires customized attention using proven skills and understanding.