I host a radio show called “The Grief Recovery Hour with Sharon Brubaker,” on KHTS and recently I talked about when I first felt and learned about true, deep grief.
In 2006, on a day I will never forget, June 16th on Father’s Day weekend and I was sitting at an open house in Valencia because I sold Real Estate at the time. I received a call from my youngest daughter and she screamed into the phone, “Mom, I lost Austin.”
Austin was my 10 year old nephew, and they were on a family vacation at the lake. A little voice inside my head told me to be strong, and I told her that he was there somewhere. She started to cry, lowered her voice and said, “I’m so scared.” I tried to be strong and not let her know that I was scared too.
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Three hours later I got the call that Austin had drowned while at the lake with my family. I felt like a knife had stabbed me right through my heart. I was in shock and my body went numb.
Later that day I had to knock on my baby sisters door and tell her that Austin had in fact died. It changed my life, and I will never be the same.
Within the 8 months after Austin died, my sister and I navigated that grief and loss together. Before this tragic event, I knew nothing about grief. I learned that grieveres need to talk, so I talked to my sister and about the situation a lot.
I guide people through a crazy or down time in their life, and I am truly honored to walk through the journey of grief recovery with my clients. At A time to grief, I work with clients to help them understand that unresolved grief is almost always associated with wishing things were better, different or more and that it can have to do with any unfulfilled hopes, dreams and expectations.
I am not only a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist—I am a griever. I teach in my program that grief is a normal and natural reaction to a loss of any kind. Yet, we were never taught how to grieve. Sadly, most of the information we are given immediately following a loss from family or friends is incorrect. It does little or nothing to help us feel better or to begin the healing process. So, we continue to search and search.
About Sharon Brubaker
Grief is individual and unique for every person. A person’s relationship to each aspect of their life is also unique. As such, the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or other reasons requires customized attention using proven skills and understanding.